Lately, I'm trying to be patience but instead what I got is this simple lesson called "The Art of Listening". The art of listening sounds so simple but yet, it's one of the hardest for most people. Personally, I think it is not all about age factor, it's more about our "intention". Do we intent to listen and understand or less listening and more of replying? Totally, I agree with the quote above.
I know we are not perfect listener or/and sometime we aren't focus, but whatever the reason of us for not listening, we have to make sure the other person know it. It gets tiring, that "the art of not listening" have turned into habit. At first, we may ask ourself, maybe the way we talk is too slow? or too loud? or too fast? that person either lose an interest of the conversation. But if he/she keep repeating it most of time, it shall be called as a habit. The same for us, if we are not willing to listen but yet eager to reply, then we must changed our bad habit. And some may listen at some part of the story and ended arguing for the wrong things. That happened a lot right?
Listening to someone can often make us bored to death, especially if its the same old topic; but perhaps, what that person need is someone to listen. Have you been in the wrong situations that make you speechless and the only thing you want to do is to be listened? That's the art! That if only we can take certain moments to listen, to just shut up, to hold our emotions, and hold our actions, things may have changed more. Communication requires two ways; not one - listen and reply ; not to listen all the time or to keep replying every time; nor listen to just a bit, then keep replying. NO. Both have to be balanced.
So what should we do if we aren't being listened? Take deep breath , repeat again the topic and if that person answers are out of topic, then ask them kindly "do you listen what I say? or do you "understand what I say?" . I know it's hard, it's annoying but we have to change and so does the ones whom we talk too! You have to make sure that they listen, understand and reply the same topic. But above all, we have to change the way we communicate. You can not generalised the way you communicate to one person is the same as to others; we have to adapt; we have to filter your words, restructure your sentences, and your tones too.
Perhaps, the fault may also from us. And if we keep communicate in the same ways with everyone, it may leads to more miscommunication, more anger (tired) and miscommunication breaks everything. So, let's start doing the art of listening by ourself, understand about the people whom we communicate, find ways to build an effective communication towards them, and listen first than reply!
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